#1: Our Early Needs

The more we had our own early needs met, the more we will develop optimally. The more our early needs were met, the more easily we will meet our children’s needs. The more our children’s needs (not wants!) are met, the more they will develop optimally.

Either we had experiences when we were growing up that helped us to develop optimally or we need to have those experiences as an adult with a wise friend, a therapist, a relationship with our partner, or healing when we become a parent. If we don’t heal it, we’ll repeat it.

We know that there are big connections between infant attachment and adult attachment. We also know that attachment can change.

We’re going to be talking about attachment and the different kinds of attachment, including earned secure attachment. I’ll also direct you towards a resource where you can look at your own attachment as an adult so you can understand a little more about your own patterns of attachment in present time.