* We say moms for simplicity, but we mean any primary caregiver. It could be dad, grandma or grandpa, foster parents, future adoptive parents. Anyone who is primarily caring for a child.
When a relationship in your life isn't working, nothing feels right. I personally feel this niggling feeling, a mix of anxiety and sadness, and a strong desire to somehow make it right. Sometimes I have trouble sleeping. Sometimes I ruminate about it all day, week, month, or year, not knowing what to do. Maybe you do, too?
I woke up this morning thinking about my relationship with my oldest son and how it used to feel so bad. We've worked really hard to heal our relationship and now we can handle the bumps that inevitably happen in our relationship. We can manage the ups and downs, the miscommunications, the times when I'm trying to fix it instead of listening. We stay connected. We reconnect when we need to. It wasn't like that when he was younger and what I was doing wasn't helping. So I had to learn new ways to connect, new ways to understand his behavior, new ways of healing my own wounding in those tender spaces where he was pushing my buttons. It wasn't easy, but it was so worth it.
Since that time, I've been supporting families to heal their relationships. Mothers who need to heal their relationship with their own mother. Couples who need help learning to communicate. Parents who have children with difficult behaviors. Disconnections with friends. Healing that needs to happen with extended family. Healing after something really difficult or traumatic has happened.
Healing relationships is tender work. It requires us to do our own healing work and to create the space for that to happen. It requires us to have experiences of really being seen, heard, and felt with our own experience of what's happening so that we can really see, hear, and feel what's happening for the other person in a new way that can shift the perception of what's happening. Sometimes healing means more boundaries. Sometimes healing means a reconnection and re-establishment of a relationship. When it is a parent-child relationship, it can be about teaching skills, understanding the story in the body that is showing up, and seeing the relationship with new eyes. With couples, it is about establishing a safe space in the relationship for healing to happen.
We're going to spend 6 months together, learning how to heal relationships with all the people in your life. And the best part is that you'll be part of a community of others committed to the same kind of healing. We're going to be healing together.
There are few things that are more stressful than a relationship that isn't working or doesn't feel good. We create stories about what's happening to make sense of what we're seeing and experiencing, but often those stories don't help us to reconnect or to heal.
What's fascinating is that healing relationships might look different with different people in your life and with different kinds of relationships (parent- young child, adult child and parent, couples, or with your mother-in-law), but the concepts of healing are the same. We're going to spend the next 6 months looking at these ideas to guide you through the process of healing and what it really looks like in your family and in your life.
We provide short weekly content (usually 10 minutes or less) as audio, video and transcript that will guide you on your journey, first through an overview of the most important concepts, then supporting you to connect to yourself and create the space for healing to happen. After space is created in your life, we'll explore what healing looks like in different situations, focusing in on the most important concepts of healing.
We have two monthly Healing Story Circles, which is a process unique to our courses. We follow a very specific process for creating the space, slowing down, and reflecting what we're hearing rather than trying to fix or solve someone else's problems for them. It creates the space for YOU to discover what your truth really is. And the skills you'll learn in this process itself will help you to heal relationships in your own life. Those who attend the Healing Story Circles consistently say that it is one of the most important things in their month and they anticipate the next one so they can share and heal. When we have the space to really be seen, heard, and felt, we have more space to see, hear, and feel the story of someone else. We acknowledge what's really happening and we also help each other to find our strengths and our resilience. Participants leave feeling empowered to go back into their own lives with new eyes about what's happening. We currently offer two times each month, one morning eastern and one evening eastern. We have participants attend the calls from Australia, Europe, South Africa, South America, and across the US and Canada.
It's amazing how much we all have in common when we create a safe space to slow down and truly listen to one another.
We all have disconnections in our lives. Everyone does at one time or another. When we learn how to heal those relationships, put boundaries in where they need to go, and create safety for everyone, we can teach our kids how to heal, too. Because disconnections happen. It's inevitable in life. This course is designed to empower you to heal your relationships with all the people in your life, whether the healing needs to happen right now or in the future.
What Parents Are Saying About Rebecca's Courses...
"I originally joined the course because of the healing circles, it was just what I was looking for, a place to be seen and heard and it did that and so much more! Through telling my stories I was able to get a better understanding of what was really going on for me and the reflecting back helped me to move forward through my problem. Through listening and reflecting back to others I've realized I'm not alone and there is a community out there going through the same struggles and wanting to make the same changes, through a conscious parenting lens. As much as the healing circles have changed how I relate to myself and my sons the course work has taken it to another level of understanding and practical tools to use when confronted with emotionally challenging situations. Thank you Rebecca for all of the amazing work you are doing, I am so much further along in my conscious parenting journey because of you ❤️" -Natalie, Mom to 2 boys, Melbourne, AU
"I have really struggled with boundaries and being able to ask questions here has been so helpful as I navigate setting or changing boundaries. As far as the healing Story circles I feel they are invaluable. They have helped me further break out of my stuffed down emotional state so I can finally feel my feelings and communicate them. It has been life changing for me and had a positive impact on my family. I still have a lot of work to do on my own emotions, but having a safe and supportive environment in order to do so makes a world of difference. Now my husband is really embracing all of it too which is so great for the whole family. I am so thankful for these courses and the work you, Rebecca, do/share with us. <3" -Christine, Mom to 2 girls, North Carolina, USA
"Working with Rebecca in the Consciously Parenting Project Community has had an incredible impact on my relationship with myself and my family. I can pause, see the feelings beneath the behavior, and respond instead of react. I have learned to use connection to make my children feel seen and heard. Understanding our own inner landscape and our triggers has given me the space to consider why I am feeling the way I do, and to take ownership for that. This is a constant work in progress, and in no way am I implying that I have mastered any of these practices! With support from the community and Rebecca through the Healing Stories and Ask Rebecca calls, I have felt that I am not alone in my struggles as a parent. Rebecca's kind and understanding manner is so comforting, as she continues to remind us that this journey of parenting is both so hard and rewarding. I highly recommend reading her books and/or joining her classes." -Denise, Mom to 2 kids, NJ, USA
"A big moment for me came during a q & a: just realizing that it's okay if my kid is having a hard time with something, that I can let go of trying to lessen her upset. (This was about how she would get really upset when I left, or when my husband took her to bed instead of me.)
February 2019: Foundational Ideas
March 2019: Establishing practices that support ourselves
April 2019: Healing Your Relationship with Yourself
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Please pay as much as you can afford to support the work we’re doing here at The Consciously Parenting Project. We strive to make our information affordable for all families. If you can afford more, you’re helping to support a family who might not otherwise be able to have the support, so thank you for paying more when you can.
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Rebecca is the founder of The Consciously Parenting Project, LLC, and author of 3 books (Consciously Parenting: What it really Takes to Raise Emotionally Healthy Families, Creating Connection: Essential Tools for Growing Families through Conception, Birth and Beyond, and Nurturing Connection: What Parents Need to Know about Emotional Expression and Bonding), numerous classes and recordings, and the former co-host of a radio show, True North Parents. She is currently working on her 4th book, All Relationships Can Heal, due out in early 2020.