An Important Message about these Discussion Forums

Our goal is to create a safe space for everyone here. This means that we need to have some rules so we don't end up with a Lord of the Flies situation.

The most important rule is obvious in real life and escapes so many otherwise intelligent humans when they're online and can't see the others. Assume that the person sharing is doing the best they can do. They don't need you to be their hero, they don't need you to tell them what they're doing wrong. Treat anyone who shares as if they are a tender soul who needs to be seen, heard, and felt and will find their own way.

Unless someone specifically asks for a solution, don't tell them what to do.

Listen. Reflect. Ask questions. Even if they ask for a solution, do that first. When someone knows that you've heard them and that you get them, they're more likely to listen to what you have to say.

We practice this in our Healing Story Circles and I'd strongly encourage you to join a call and experience what it feels like. When you have the experience, you get it on a much deeper level. This is such an amazing skill to have in life, especially in parenting, so I encourage you to show up on the calls and give it a try!

In the meantime, listen, reflect, help someone else feel seen, heard, and felt. And if their story brings up something for you, start another post.

Thank you for your help in keeping this a safe space for everyone here.

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